About Me

Long before I had language for it, I was watching people, noticing who withdrew, who performed, who dominated, who disappeared, and who tried a little too hard. That curiosity never left. It became the thread that shaped my entire life.

I began my career in education, completing a Bachelor of Arts and Bachelor of Teaching before going on to complete a Master of Counselling. Early in my teaching years, I found myself less interested in behaviour itself and more interested in what was driving it. That question, what’s happening underneath? became the centre of my work.

Over the past two decades, I have worked across education, corporate leadership, and relational development. I am accredited in Life Styles Inventory (LSI), CLS360, and Genos Emotional Intelligence, and I have spent years facilitating leadership programs that support individuals and teams to develop greater emotional intelligence, relational awareness, and behavioural insight.

I am also the author of two books and a regular contributor to Peninsula Kids magazine, where I write about parenting, relationships, and emotional growth in everyday life.

My work is informed by established research in emotional intelligence, attachment, nervous system awareness, and behaviour change. I don’t position myself as a neuroscientist or academic researcher, however my strength is translating complex human concepts into language people can actually use in real conversations, in real relationships, and in the moments that matter.

I am also a parent of three, a partner, a daughter, and a human navigating the same complexities as everyone else.

This work has been tested inside my own home.

In my marriage, in my parenting, in moments where it would have been easier to defend, withdraw, or react.

Understanding protection and perspective has changed the way I show up in the relationships that matter most to me. It has allowed me to separate what is mine from what is not, to repair more quickly, and to lead from clarity rather than reflex.

I don’t position myself as someone who has it all figured out. I position myself as someone who pays attention to patterns, to protection, to the stories we carry, and to the ways we try to stay safe.

Across leadership programs, schools, families, and individual work, one truth has remained constant:

When people understand what is driving them, shame reduces. When shame reduces, choice increases. When choice increases, relationships ease.

That is the foundation of The Knowing Self, not perfection, awareness, and awareness changes everything.