About Amanda
I’m someone who’s always been observing, noticing, and asking questions about people, about behaviour, about what drives us, what breaks us, and what brings us back to ourselves.
I’ve spent my life learning.
First in classrooms as a teacher, educator, and parent.
Then in the more confronting spaces, as a woman navigating burnout, identity, grief, friendship loss, motherhood, and the quiet rebuilding that happens when the version of life you thought you’d built no longer feels like home.
For years, I positioned myself as someone who had the answers. It was well-intentioned, I wanted to help, but somewhere along the way, I realised that true leadership doesn’t come from being the one who knows best, it comes from being the one who’s willing to go inward first.
I’ve done the work (and continue to).
I’ve sat with discomfort.
I’ve named the truth, even when it was messy.
I’ve turned pain into purpose time and time again.
That’s the heart of everything I offer now- not programs, not personas, but spaces, real, grounded, and emotionally intelligent, for people to come back to who they really are.
I care deeply about supporting others to live and lead with emotional honesty.
Whether I’m speaking with a room of leaders, facilitating a workshop, guiding a circle, or simply holding space for someone one-on-one, I bring with me everything I’ve lived, learned, unlearned, and come home to.
My work is for the woman who gives everything to others and is finally ready to return to herself.
It’s for the educator who wants to see their students more clearly, and themselves too.
It’s for the leader who’s tired of performing strength and wants to lead from integrity, clarity, and heart.
I’m not here to fix anyone, but I believe deeply in the power of people remembering who they are.
If you’ve found your way here, maybe that remembering has already begun.
You’re welcome, exactly as you are.
There’s nothing to prove here, just space to be.
Amanda Stokes is an emotional intelligence educator, teacher, speaker, and founder of The Knowing Self. She is also the author of The Tween Mother’s Toolbook, a practical guide designed to help parents navigate the pivotal tween years with empathy, confidence, and real-world strategies.
With a Master’s in Counselling and over 20 years of experience in education, leadership, and coaching, Amanda is known for her grounded, human approach to helping people reconnect with themselves and others. Her work weaves together emotional insight, lived experience, and practical tools, creating powerful spaces for self-reflection, honest conversation, and personal leadership.
Amanda’s impact spans schools, families, corporate teams, and community organisations, always guided by one core principle: real change begins with self-awareness. Whether she’s supporting parents, teachers, young people, or leaders, Amanda’s message is consistent and compassionate, inviting everyone to pause, reflect, and return to their own emotional clarity and integrity.
Amanda’s approach is rooted in the power of 2% tweaks, small, intentional shifts that gently illuminate new possibilities. Growth with Amanda isn’t about sweeping transformation or impossible leaps; it’s about turning on the light in the darker corners and discovering what even the tiniest adjustment can shift. With compassion, humor, and realism, Amanda shows that the greatest change can be the simplest to begin and easiest to sustain.
Professional Bio
If something inside you softened as you read those words,
let that be enough.
You don’t need to have everything figured out, be fully healed, or wait for the perfect moment.
You’re invited to begin, exactly as you are.
There’s space for you here, to pause, to reconnect, to remember the truest part of yourself beneath it all.
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