THE KNOWING SELF
A clearer way to understand what drives human behaviour.
What sits beneath behaviour matters.
Most of what we do is shaped beneath awareness, by perception, emotion, and the patterns our nervous systems learned long before we could name them.
When we understand what’s happening underneath, everything above it begins to shift. The Knowing Self is a simple, human way to see those patterns with more clarity and less blame.
Where this understanding lives
The Knowing Self Family
A family‑centred application of this work. A gentle way to understand behaviour, emotional dynamics, and repair without urgency, shame, or overwhelm.
Leaders and Teams
A practical, relational approach to leadership. Supporting clearer decision‑making, healthier dynamics, and reduced reactivity in organisational life.
Speaking and Workshops
Conversations that introduce this way of understanding behaviour in schools, organisations, and community settings.
Meet Amanda Stokes
Founder of The Knowing Self
For more than two decades, Amanda has been drawn to what sits beneath the surface, the emotional, relational, and perceptual layers that shape how humans behave, connect, and lead.
Her work lives at the intersection of psychology, emotional intelligence, and lived experience. It explores how meaning is formed, how patterns repeat, and how awareness changes what we can no longer ignore.
What began in classrooms as a deep interest in the whole child has grown into a broader philosophy: a way of understanding ourselves, each other, and the systems we move within, at home, at work, and in the spaces where people gather.
Amanda’s work is grounded, human, and quietly transformative. It centres language, reflection, and self‑leadership as the foundation for safer, more connected ways of being.
A quiet invitation
To know yourself is to open the only door that leads everywhere you wish to go.
Begin where you are.
Awareness is the first step toward change, in ourselves, in our families, and in the spaces we lead.
When we understand what lives beneath the surface, we create the conditions for growth, trust, and genuine connection.