What’s beneath the surface shapes everything above it.
Most people move through life reacting, to stress, to others, and to their own unspoken stories.
The Knowing Self exists to interrupt that, and to help you slow down long enough to understand what’s driving you, so you can respond with clarity, lead with empathy, and create safety for others to do the same.
Where this work lives.
Families
A guided family experience that brings emotional intelligence home; helping parents and young people understand themselves, communicate openly, and strengthen connection.
Awareness that begins within, and ripples through every relationship that matters most.
Leaders and Teams
Emotional intelligence in the Digital world; for the spaces where decisions ripple outward.
Building awareness, trust, and psychological safety in modern leadership.
Speaking and Workshops
Keynotes and sessions that bring emotional intelligence to life in a
practical, honest, and deeply human way.
School Programs available
Meet Amanda Stokes
Founder of The Knowing Self
Educator | Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Leadership & Family Coach
For over two decades, I’ve been drawn to what sits beneath the surface; the unseen layers of emotion, story, and self-perception that shape the way we lead, parent, and connect.
My work lives at the intersection of psychology, emotional intelligence, and human truth.
It’s where science meets story, and where awareness becomes a catalyst for compassion and change.
I help people understand themselves deeply enough to lead differently; to replace reaction with reflection, and perfection with presence.
What began in classrooms as a passion for seeing the whole child has evolved into a philosophy for how we see ourselves, each other, and the impact we make; to create spaces for honesty, safety, and growth; where self-awareness becomes the starting point for real change.
My gift is helping people find the language for what they feel, and the courage to lead from it.
To know yourself is to open the only door that leads everywhere you wish to go.
Begin where you are.
Awareness is the first step toward change, in ourselves, in our families, and in the spaces we lead.
When we understand what lives beneath the surface,
we create the conditions for growth, trust, and genuine connection.